Maternal Warmth Doesn’t Make Spanking Less Harmful

I came a cross this, and thought it deserved to be shared! I am really glad that the parenting that feels natural to our family is finding its place as scientific fact!


Thanks to the marvelous discoveries in neuroscience, parents are beginning to understand the danger of toxic stress on their child’s developing brain.  When I was a young mother 25 years ago, the only toxins I knew about were alcohol and caffeine during pregnancy.  I didn’t want to have arguments in front of my children or spank them, but I had no idea that arguing or yelling or spanking could actually be toxic to the brain!

The greatest risk is when we become the source of threat to our children.

When we talk about toxic stress, we often think about natural disasters or a nasty divorce.  But the surprising thing is, children can cope with fairly serious stressors if they have the “mitigating influence” of a loving caregiver.  You may wonder, how can I be a protective mitigating influence to my child?  We provide that mitigating influence when we are consistently…

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Clearing out and cashing in!

With Daddy Owl recently made redundant  our goals are now a little more challenging as money saving and living on a shoestring come into play… Challenge accepted!

This week our focus has been on sorting junk out to sell, i say junk, really i mean anything that we don’t use or need. We are keeping baby clothes, and items that may be useful if we decide to have more Owlets, but not much else.

We considered a car boot sale, but with Owlet being so little and

weather being so temperamental along with limited car space and Daddy Owl not driving we decided to use Facebook and local selling sites instead. Even though this may mean lower returns.

So far I’ve used excess baby items that were new to make 5 nappy cakes – i sold 3 of these for £5 each, and gave 2 to a heart charity for a fundraising event.

We’ve also sold:
A baby bath seat – £1

A keyring – 70p

Some nappies –  £13

Some old and broken jewellery – £2

An unwanted milk storage pot – £1

A lamaze baby spinner – £10


That’s £42.70 so far, which has really come in handy!

And we have a ton more stuff sorted to sell and donate 🙂

Ahhh clear outs are refreshing! Try it, you’d be amazed at the value of your ‘junk’!


Breastfeeding is not only best for baby…

When me and Daddy Owl decided to try for a baby, we had just got engaged. I’d been told previously it would likely take me longer to conceive than most, and we decided that then was the time for me to come off the pill.

Before i did however, i asked him his opinion on breastfeeding – he was honest in telling me he didn’t really know much about it, and so i asked him to research and come back to me.  Less than 24 hours later he came back to me and asked me to breastfeed any future Owlets, promising to support me in any way he could.

That was the day i truly decided he was the man for me. It re-enforced my love for him, and the first positivity of breastfeeding happened then:
It brought us closer together by reaffirming that our priorities matched.

It took many years for Owlet to arrive…

During that time i had a lot of chance to think about other benefits of breastfeeding, outside of the many health benefits for Me and Owlet.

First was cost. Previously i just made the assumption that breastfeeding would be cheaper, but for this post i calculated the main costs of formula feeding an infant for 1 year, it shocked me that just the main, obvious costs amounted to almost £600 in that first year alone!!! Breastfeeding would mean more money for Owlets savings account 🙂 (see here: https://sleepymummyowl.wordpress.com/the-financial-cost-of-formula-feeding-an-infant-until-12-months-of-age/  for exact info)

Whilst calculating that I realised just how good for the environment breastfeeding is… There’s no plastic production for bottles and sterilisers, no water needs, no constant electricity usage for kettles and bottle warmers and  no waste from the manufacturing process.

When Owlet did arrive, i have no doubt that breastfeeding heightened our bond. Within hours i understood her, and could pick up on her cues. Now I’m not for a second saying that mums who formula feed don’t bond, however i do believe that breastfeeding Owlet gave us a stronger bond, quicker!

When Owlet wasn’t thriving, i knew something was wrong, I’ll go more into that story another time, but eventually we realised she had multiple food allergies. If at that point I’d decided to give up breastfeeding, she would have needed special formula costing the nhs in excess of £20 a week for the whole first year of her life. Add that to the fact that my risks of cancers are reduced, Owlet is less likely to suffer as many childhood illnesses, and you realise that breastfeeding saves the nhs an awful lot too! And a less strained health service helps everyone!

For us, breastfeeding is best for Owlet, me, our family as a whole, our wallets (Owlets bank account), the environment the NHS and society.

And that’s only the things this sleep deprived mummy owl can think of right now 🙂


The journey to here…

I’ve always been quite protective of the world we live in. I spent a long time as a vegetarian, i recycle regularly, buy eco products… I thought i did my bit!

But when my Daughter arrived in this world, so tiny, so precious something stirred in me… I knew i wanted her to have a world worth living in. I knew my parenting style would be different to mainstream… I knew i had to do more.

When whilst breastfeeding little owlet showed signs of allergies to things in my diet, i realised just what goes into our bodies! I was horrified when she reacted to perfumes and i realised what went in them… And everyday i learned more i was shocked by.

A few days ago me and Daddy Owl put together a base list of goals for the year… I hope in actuality to get more done, but Owlet is only 5 months – so I’m not holding my breath!

1) To become more eco friendly, by cutting down on waste, and investing in reusable products.

2) Get our house and garden finished, with a home school area for Owlet and a vegetable patch to become more self sustainable.

3) Sell excess junk and de-clutter (up cycling where possible)

4) cut back drastically on processed food, and cook more from scratch.

5) Minimise chemical usage in our home and garden.

We invite you to join our journey, maybe we can learn from each other!